What am I about -- 11/1/2009 Through 11/3/2009
This is about reflecting on my coaching, the notes below were typed while being coached, and my not reflect what was actually said or be coherent.
Italics are from notes on 10/22
what is the emotional connection to myself that sustains my connection to the universe.
this leaves me a little empty, I'm not sure what it means. is there such a thing?
I was on overwhelm that day, in the middle of my move, in conflict with my lover, worried about money. I want to answer that there is no such emotional connection, but I suspect I'm just missing the point.
If I ask "what connects me to the universe" rather than "what is the emotional connection" then there is some traction in me. Connection to the universe comes from the center of me. I locate it sometimes in my heart, sometimes it is a pole running down the center of me. Sometime it is in my groin, and other times in my head. After looking for it like I just did it is in every pore breathing in and out.
It is a good feeling when I feel emotionally connected to the people in my life.
you're not emotionally connected. chaos is a mask attracted to crossing boundaries.
I'm not sure what these meant.
what am I passionate about, what boundaries do I want to cross.
I'm passionate about being connected to people. I feel most alive when I make an intimate connection with someone. This is something I like about coaching, it gives me an intimate connection with the other.
Intimacy is the boundary that I want to cross. By this I mean, at least primarily, emotional and intellectual boundaries. Nonetheless, the most exciting boundary to cross is sexual, as can and does for me include emotional and intellectual.
N asked during the during this coaching what did it mean to me to cross boundaries, "did I want to hug everyone, or have sex with everyone." I answered somewhere in between.
I've been exploring the idea of poly relationships, but my partner is not interested and is not interested in any kind of open relationship. I'm not in any particular place with this, except that I have a wandering eye, but I don't really have the energy to explore this and have no potential partners in any case.
you are a creator -- create new ways of looking at things.
These are things N said near the end or our session. It felt inspirational at the time, but I don't know what to create. I have always had the sense that I look at things differently than most people. I see the opposites in everything. C accuses me of not taking a position, but it does not feel that way to me. It is clear to me that if one holds to a truth as absolute one comes eventually to its opposite, contradicting itself -- this works in the same way that ultra-liberal and ultra-conservatives can come to the same conclusions or even pass each other.
cross edges. Apocalypse Now a reflection of who I am. Gift of creation of crossing boundries and edges.
This is more of the wrap up with N. For me Apocalypse Now is about going for truth at any cost. And for some number of years this has been driving me, and has led me to the contradiction of holding A Truth as absolute.
In this process I went from believer to non-believer, to realizing that holding to non-believing was the same as believing. This pushed me into a deeply agnostic place and strangely opened me to a faith in what is. This is very much where I feel I stand today. A deep, abiding trust in what is, with no need to do anything, but also an understanding that action is required, and so that action might as well be that which gives me joy. That which gives me joy is intimacy with others.
write about edges, what is the emotion that grounds me. passion to cross boundaries. what is the grounding emotion.
All of the above is an attempt to complete this assignment.
The boundaries I want to cross are in the domain of intimacy. I don't know however where the limits are, and I don't want to hurt my partner. I have a passion for my relationship with her that continuously surprises me.